Why do heterosexuals hate homosexuals

The American Psychological Association APA noted in that "same-sex couples are remarkably similar to heterosexual couples, and that parenting effectiveness and the adjustment, development and psychological well-being of children is unrelated to parental sexual orientation.

Similarly, the Child Welfare League of America's official position with regard to same-sex parents is that "lesbian, gay, and bisexual parents are as well-suited to raise children as their heterosexual counterparts. A review of research on same-sex parenting carried out by LiveScience, a science news website, found no differences between children raised by heterosexual parents and children raised by lesbian parents. In some cases, it found, children in same-sex households may actually be better adjusted than in heterosexual homes.

A preliminary study in Australia found that the children of lesbian and gay parents are not only thriving, but may actually have better overall health and higher rates of family cohesion than heterosexual families. The full study was published in June Despite all this, the Regnerus Study is still used in the U. MYTH 3 People become homosexual because they were sexually abused as children or there was a deficiency in sex-role modeling by their parents.

This argument is used to counter the common observation that no one, gay or straight, consciously chooses his or her sexual orientation. Joseph Nicolosi, a founder of the National Association for Research and Therapy of Homosexuality , said in that "if you traumatize a child in a particular way, you will create a homosexual condition.

A side effect of this argument is the demonization of parents of gay men and lesbians, who are led to wonder if they failed to protect a child against sexual abuse or failed as role models in some important way. The American Psychiatric Association noted in a fact sheet available on the Association of Gay and Lesbian Psychiatrists, that dealing with gay, lesbian and bisexual issues, that sexual abuse does not appear to be any more prevalent among children who grow up and identify as gay, lesbian or bisexual than in children who grow up and identify as heterosexual.

Similarly, the National Organization on Male Sexual Victimization notes on its website that "experts in the human sexuality field do not believe that premature sexual experiences play a significant role in late adolescent or adult sexual orientation" and added that it's unlikely that anyone can make another person gay or heterosexual.

Advocates for Youth, an organization that works in the U. In , Dr. THE ARGUMENT Anti-LGBT organizations, seeking to promote heterosexuality as the healthier "choice," often offer up the purportedly shorter life spans and poorer physical and mental health of gays and lesbians as reasons why they shouldn't be allowed to adopt or foster children. On the basis of the same obituaries, Cameron also claimed that gay men are 18 times more likely to die in car accidents than heterosexuals, 22 times more likely to die of heart attacks than whites, and 11 times more likely than blacks to die of the same cause.

He also concluded that lesbians are times more likely to die of murder, suicide, or accidents than straight women. Remarkably, these claims have become staples of the anti-gay right and have frequently made their way into far more mainstream venues. However, like virtually all of his "research," Cameron's methodology is egregiously flawed — most obviously because the sample he selected the data from the obits was not remotely statistically representative of the LGBT population as a whole.

Even Nicholas Eberstadt, a demographer at the conservative American Enterprise Institute, has called Cameron's methods "just ridiculous. Anti-LGBT organizations have also tried to support this claim by distorting the work of legitimate scholars, like a study conducted by a Canadian team of researchers that dealt with gay and bisexual men living in Vancouver in the late s and early s.

The authors of the study became aware that their work was being misrepresented by anti-LGBT groups, and issued a response taking the groups to task. Lively is the virulently anti-gay founder of Abiding Truth Ministries and Abrams is an organizer of a group called the International Committee for Holocaust Truth, which came together in and included Lively as a member. The primary argument Lively and Abrams make is that gay people were not victimized by the Holocaust.

Rather, Hitler deliberately sought gay men for his inner circle because their "unusual brutality" would help him run the party and mastermind the Holocaust. In fact, "the Nazi party was entirely controlled by militaristic male homosexuals throughout its short history," the book claims. These claims have been picked up by a number of anti-gay groups and individuals, including Bryan Fischer of the American Family Association , as proof that gay men and lesbians are violent and sick.

The book has also attracted an audience among anti-gay church leaders in Eastern Europe and among Russian-speaking anti-gay activists in America. Christine Mueller, professor of history at Reed College, did a line-by-line refutation of an earlier Abrams article on the topic and of the broader claim that the Nazi Party was "entirely controlled" by gay men.

Historian Jon David Wynecken at Grove City College also refuted the book , pointing out that Lively and Abrams did no primary research of their own, instead using out-of-context citations of some legitimate sources while ignoring information from those same sources that ran counter to their thesis. The myth that the Nazis condoned homosexuality sprang up in the s, started by socialist opponents of the Nazis as a slander against Nazi leaders.

The Nazis considered homosexuality one aspect of the "degeneracy" they were trying to eradicate. Heinrich Himmler, Hitler's security chief, announced that homosexuality was to be "eliminated" in Germany, along with miscegenation among the races.

Historians estimate that between 50, and , men were arrested for homosexuality or suspicion of it under the Nazi regime. These men were routinely sent to concentration camps and many thousands died there.

Himmler expressed his views on homosexuality like this: "We must exterminate these people root and branch. We can't permit such danger to the country; the homosexual must be completely eliminated. MYTH 6 Hate crime laws will lead to the jailing of pastors who criticize homosexuality and the legalization of practices like bestiality and necrophilia.

THE ARGUMENT Anti-gay activists, who have long opposed adding LGBT people to those protected by hate crime legislation, have repeatedly claimed that such laws would lead to the jailing of religious figures who preach against homosexuality — part of a bid to gain the backing of the broader religious community for their position. Hate Crimes Prevention Act — signed into law by President Obama in October — would "jail pastors" because it "criminalizes speech against the homosexual agenda.

In a related assertion, anti-gay activists claimed the law would lead to the legalization of psychosexual disorders paraphilias like bestiality and pedophilia. My lover will be unable to afford to live in the house we have made for each other over our lifetime together.

This does not happen to you. Taxation without representation is what led to the Revolutionary War. Gay people have paid all the taxes you have. President Bush will leave a legacy of hate for us that will take many decades to cleanse. So, even with the most tolerant of new presidents, gays will be unable to break free from this yoke of hate. Courts rule against gays with hateful regularity. And of course the Supreme Court is not going to give us our equality, and in the end, it is from the Supreme Court that such equality must come.

If all of this is not hate, I do not know what hate is. Our feeble gay movement confines most of its demands to marriage. But political candidates are not talking about — and we are not demanding that they talk about — equality. You must know that gays get beaten up all the time, all over the world. If someone beats you up because of who you are — your race or ethnic origin — that is considered a hate crime.

But in most states, gays are not included in hate crime measures, and Congress has refused to include us in a federal act. Homosexuality is a punishable crime in a zillion countries, as is any activism on behalf of it.

Punishable means prison. Punishable means death. The U. Who cares if a faggot dies? Parts of the Episcopal Church in the U. A young gay man was just killed in Florida because of his sexual orientation. I get reports of gays slain in our country every week. You, like many lesbian, gay and bisexual people, may have hidden your sexual orientation for a long time. Research carried out in Northern Ireland into the needs of young LGBT people in revealed that the average age for men to realise their sexual orientation was 12, yet the average age they actually confided in someone was It is during these formative years when people are coming to understand and acknowledge their sexual orientation that internalised homophobia can really affect a person.

Internalised homophobia manifests itself in varying ways that can be linked to mental health. Examples include:. Contempt for those that are not like ourselves or contempt for those who seem like ourselves. Sometimes distancing by engaging in homophobic behaviours — ridicule, harassment, verbal or physical attacks on other LGB people.

School truancy or dropping out of school. Also, work place absenteeism or reduced productivity. Separating sex and love, or fear of intimacy. Sometimes low or lack of sexual drive or celibacy.

Some of these examples include:. Heterophobia: putting down or even avoiding heterosexuals is an example of reverse discrimination from some gay and bisexual people to heterosexual people.

When this pattern of being attracted to unavailable men is repeated over and over, it may be the result of internalised homophobia. Internalised homophobia and oppression can have a huge impact on your mental health, as well as influence your thoughts, feelings, and behaviours. If you would like to undertake some personal therapy to help you deal with internalised oppression, please see our counselling section for more information.

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