Calling my ex what should i say

Again, there's nothing wrong with wanting to call an ex. But if you're tempted to do so, then think about why. Dorell emphasizes that there are actually some good reasons to call your ex.

For instance, "if you share a bank account and need some information to close it out, or you share children or pets and need to convey a piece of VIP information," then it's totally OK to reach out to them, she says.

If you were really on a break and then you realized that you want to be together, then definitely call your ex, she says. However, if it isn't an urgent matter or you don't want to get back together, then think long and hard before calling an ex. According to Frank Kermit, dating coach at FrankTalks. So tread carefully. Odds are, it won't end well. Pretty simple, right? Now, if you're wanting to call an ex for closure, then Dorell has a trick that you should try first.

Admittedly, after a breakup your cons are going to be a lot higher than your pros on your exes list. However, the main reason for that is the fact that emotions are heightened after something emotional happens like a breakup.

Of course, with time that emotional headwind you are facing from him is going to lessen. Doing that is essentially the same thing as poking a bear, eventually the bear is going to explode but if you wait until the bear calms down he is going to be much more receptive of you. Look, I am going to make this really simple for you, the key to getting any guy to call you is to give him a reason worth calling.

If you want more information on calling your ex boyfriend or information on how to get him back please check out Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO Guide. I had an interesting conversation with someone a few days ago. This particular woman really wanted to get her ex boyfriend back but there was just one problem, she made every mistake in the book.

Anyways, after talking with me she was feeling pretty down about her chances and then she said something that I found fascinating. In fact, I have made so many mistakes in my own personal relationships that I sometimes wonder why my now ex significant others stayed with me as long as they did. Of course, I will say one thing about myself. I do have a unique quality when it comes to relationships. The truth is, that you never learn from a success.

You only can learn when you make a mistake. Just say to yourself:. Gosh that was so annoying because no matter how many times you swatted at the gnats they just kept coming back for more. Unfortunately, they never get the hint and keep calling or texting.

We have already established that an ex boyfriend is likely to run away from things that will give him bad feelings. What if during your relationship with your ex you were constantly calling him. Now, he is your boyfriend so he pretty much has to pick up every time you call if he was a good boyfriend at least ;. Every time he would pick up the phone you would nag him about something.

That feeling of nagging can sometimes burden a man and unfortunately that burdening can lead to pain. In this made up scenario your ex boyfriend now views you calling him as a con on the pros vs cons list?

Well, because it seems that every time you call him you leave him with a bad feeling. First off, there is a specific way that you have to call your ex boyfriend to ensure maximum success. I will go over that later. For now, I want to point out something incredibly annoying that women can sometimes do when they get desperate for an ex boyfriend to pick up their calls. Every day I get women contacting me trying to force me to answer them and help them with their problem.

While I respond to every single person in the comments section of this site I no longer respond to emails unless they have to do with the E-Book. If I responded to every single person through email I would literally get nothing done. Anyways, I can kind of understand where your ex is coming from on this one. Now, I bet you are wondering why I chose these examples. The truth is that I chose them specifically because they illustrate a few good points.

Right off the bat I will tell you that I sense the person who is saying it is extremely desperate. Desperation is NOT ever attractive. However, for some reason there are a select group of women that tend to think it is.

Also, I want you to take a look at the second part of the statement. Any time anyone ever texts this to me I start freaking out and wracking my brain with everything that could have possibly gone wrong to cause the emergency. Interestingly, I have a different reaction when an ex girlfriend says this to me. I would most likely roll my eyes and think to myself. If someone were to ever say this to me I would flat out de-friend them on Facebook. I mean, that is essentially what that statement is, an ultimatum.

Funnily enough, you would probably do what I wanted so you could get your phone back but you would always hold the fact that I gave you an ultimatum against me. That is essentially what an ex boyfriend would feel if the above statement was said to him. This is the part where I am going to give you in-depth instructions on how you can make an ex boyfriend potentially call you or pick up your calls. Before I get started I do just want to say that everything from this section on is going to be very important so make sure that you are paying attention.

I am assuming that getting an ex boyfriend to call you is just one little aspect of your overall goal which is probably to get him back. Thus, this section is written with that deeper goal in mind. All of these concepts are going to tie into a deeper gameplan with one goal in mind, to make your ex want you so bad that he calls you.

For one, it is really important for you to obtain that logical mindset that I keep talking about. Also, the act of entering into a no contact period alone can sometimes cause an ex boyfriend to call you. Doing that will not help you achieve a logical mindset. Instead, you will just be reinforcing the emotional mindset that you probably already have. However, at the same time you want an emotional mindset to bring out the good feelings that he associates with you.

It is through your exes emotions that you will get him to call you or pick up your phone calls. What I would like to do now is go into the specifics of the gameplan so you have a really good idea of what to do to make your ex boyfriend call you.

Yup, I decided to bug you again about this silly E-Book! You see, you need to find a way in which you can turn his bad feelings into good feelings. Personally, I have found the best way to do this is through text messages. More specifically, consistently hooking him into conversations that reinforce your good feeling vibes. I love it when you meet someone new and you are literally on the edge of your seat anticipating their next text. There is something magical that happens when you actually build an emotional connection with the person you are texting.

If you ever get to know me really well then you would know that I am the type of person that needs to get my beauty sleep. In other words, I really loving sleeping in. When I was 18 years old my girlfriend at the time caused a change in my sleeping pattern. You see, at that time I was a senior in high school and I really wanted to see my girlfriend more than once a weekend.

So, we worked out a way to see eachother almost every day. I would wake up at in the morning and drive to school early. Around we would meet and have 2 uninterrupted hours to just talk and do other things ;. Seriously, if you were to walk into my room tomorrow at in the morning and poured cold water on me I would still be sleeping.

THAT is how you make him call you and you are going to do it through the least threatening way possible, through texting. A guide that is supposed to be about phone calls and we are going to spend a huge chunk talking about texting.

Well, here is the way I look at things. When you get on the phone with you ex and I say when because I have complete confidence that YOU are going to make this happen. Instead, I want the phone call to be like old times, to help rebuild the emotional connection that you both used to cherish.

In other words, you are going to get your ex used to associating you with good feelings before you talk on the phone so that when you do things will go extremely well. Below I have compiled a lot of text messages that you should use to get your ex to associate you to good feelings.

If there is one thing I have learned about the women visiting my site throughout this past year it is that they want results fast. Rebuilding an emotional connection can take time. So, here is how I want you to approach things:. If your ex does respond positively to the first texting example that will give you the ability to use another texting example on this page.

If this is the situation you find yourself in DO NOT use the texting example in the same conversation you used the first example. Instead, you can use it in the next conversation you have. That is completely ok it just means that you need to go back into no contact period for a while and give him more time. It is also important to note that you have to be careful when you use the text messages. It is easy to get carried away and fall back into an emotional mindset.

While there are times that are good for that you do need to keep your wits about you. Your goal with every interaction you have with your ex boyfriend is to leave him wanting more.

That means YOU have to have the willpower to cut the conversation off right when it is starting to get good. Any time any girl compares me to a good looking celebrity it makes me feel pretty good. However, it also makes me sit up and take a look at the girl doing the comparison.

The reason I like this text message so much is that it gets your ex used to comparing you to a good feeling. That will make him associate that good feeling with you since YOU were the one that gave it to him.

However, there is a bit of a problem with this text message. So, I am going to recommend that you use this text message as a way to open the conversation.

It seems less awkward this way. Check it out below:. Because your ex is likely going to fish for more compliments and you want to leave him wanting more. Lets move on to our next text message. One of my favorite things to do when I text is to send out videos to my friends. I love doing it to see how they react to it. However, would you like to know what I love even more than sending out videos?

I love receiving messages from a girl that I am interested in and I am going to guess that your ex is the same way. So, I want you to send him a video of yourself. Remember, you are trying to establish a connection with him not creep him out. Do you remember when you read that get your ex boyfriend to call you guide on your phone or computer? This text message is all about making your ex boyfriend remember a good time the two of you had together. The key to this text message is to choose a good time that the two of you had together.

However, if you know of a time where your ex was the only one that had a good time you can use that as well just pretend like you had a good time too. Side Note: Do not use the time you had sex for this. I have found that the more details you give the better the feeling your ex will get.

For example, you can pretend like you forgot something about the memory and are asking him to recount it for you. Doing this will give him a mental visual of the memory and hopefully bring up those good feelings from within.

I want this text message to be all about how you feel. Yes, for the first time during this entire process you are going to talk about your feelings! The key to making this text message work is to not get too emtional. I do want you to tap into your emotions but I want you to be really conservative on how you display them.

The point of this text message is really to study how your ex reacts to it. Essentially, you are going to say something semi sweet, as I will demonstrate in the graphic below, but what you are really looking for here is to see if he says something sweet or semi sweet back.

The thing that I want you to remember is that these two calls are NOT created equally. Getting one of them is much more valuable than getting the other one. However, for the purposes of this guide I am going to cover each of them. But really at the end of the day the main goal here is to get on the phone with your ex boyfriend so you can work on getting him back.

So, just getting either one of these phone calls can be deemed a success! More specifically, have you ever gotten a phone call out of the blue from a guy you had feelings for?

What if an ex boyfriend calls you during the no contact period? Take a look at the texting section above. It is through those text messages that you can tap into your ex boyfriends emotions and cause him to replace his bad feelings towards you with good ones. For one, he had to physically pick up his phone and call you. Of course, if this type of phone call is done correctly it can be a very powerful way to get your ex boyfriend on the phone.

Instead of looking for a way to make HIM call you, you are going to take the reins and call him! Leading Phone Call- A type of phone call where you lead him or warn him that you are going to call.

So intriguing that he has no choice but to accept a phone call from you. The only way it works is if you have turned his bad feelings into good feelings. Now, I am not saying that you have to be perfect. All I am saying is that you have to do a good job with the text messages in the section above for this to work. When I was 21 years old I ended up going on a date with a girl based purely on looks. I am not going to lie, she was a very good looking girl.

However, during our date I slowly began to realize that her personality was horrible. It was the simple fact that she was boring. Everything she did bored me. Everything she said bored me. I remember zoning out multiple times throughout this date. Of course, there was another problem. So, I have one really close male friend who knows my deepest darkest secrets.

I was talking to him after the date and explaining how boring this girl was. I remember I pulled up Facebook showed him her picture and got the following response…. I want you to tell a story. Except the story has to be long enough and interesting enough to be told over the phone. What I want you to do is prime the story through text messages. So, lets use the story I told above as an example.

I want you to notice how well I primed the phone call. If he gives you permission to do so then you are definitely IN! Man, you are a hard sell :. One last time here is where you can find my E-Book. Well, that changes right now! This is going to be the final section of the guide and arguably the most important one so make sure that you are paying attention. I have thought a lot about how to structure this category and I decided to start with two general ideas.

Head over to my website and watch my video about exactly what to do to win back your ex. Brad Browning is a relationship coach specializing in breakups and divorce. Based in beautiful Vancouver Canada, Brad has worked with thousands of men and women around the world, helping to reverse breakups, stop divorce, and mend broken relationships.

Brad is author of two best-selling online programs: The Ex Factor , which teaches readers how to get their ex back, and Mend the Marriage , which helps readers to revive a dying marriage. He also offers personal coaching to a limited number of clients, guiding them through the process of winning back an ex or rescuing a marriage from the brink of collapse.

Hi there. And my boyfriend of 3yrs broke up with me in September Good morning, goodnight, have a good day messages all the time. I tried to block him but he reached out to a friend to see how I was doing. I replied and he acted as if I was a bother. He just wants to see how I was doing. It hurts sometimes. I plan to stick it out. It was my frirst relationship and I have the worlds most prying mother. Thank you.

Hope to hear from you soon. What do you actually want?